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Today, I want to talk about what to do when you get stuck in your business. And you can use the same process to get unstuck as well in your life.
Thank you very much for joining to another episode of Explode Your Expert Biz Show. And today I want to talk about more about the thought process that I’ve used. And I use every single time I get stuck somewhere.
Sometimes, I get stuck in my business, sometimes it can be I get stuck in my personal life and you know when you are in that situation when you’ve tried maybe a hundred different things and nothing is working. Or you know that you can see a pattern that is repeating consistently. Whether it’s lack of clients, whether it’s lack of sales, whether it’s lack of leads, whether it’s a bad relationship with your team members, whether it’s getting stuck in the creation of a new funnel or product and services.
Whatever you’re finding in this type of situation in the business world. Or in a personal lives like in a personal relationship, or in your health and fitness or in your spiritual practises that you can do to help yourself mentally and spiritually, and physically at the same time. Then it sucks when you’re there, because we all see that sometimes we think “I’ve done everything I can”. But it’s not true I personally believe that the universe, God, call it whatever you want, will never give us a challenge that we can’t handle. That’s what I believe, that I’m capable to face every single thing that comes in my way. Now is it easy? No… Hell no.
Is it challenging? Oh Yes. But is it necessary to do in order to grow? Absolutely yes. And this is why I’m really passionate about this topic and I want to share with you a quick process that I use to get unstuck, or at least to start the thought processes and the actions that can help me find different solutions and they can help me find different alternatives.
Now sometimes the first time you do something, and the first thing that comes up, I just want to give you the disclaimers first. When you use this process sometimes the first thing that comes up might not be the things that you’re going to do. But it’s the first thing that you need in order to get to the thing that is going to be the one that you’re going to do to get unstuck. I hope that makes sense. I hope this makes sense to everyone right now. So let’s get started with the process.
So it’s made with four steps. The first step that you can use, first of all thinking about why is this important to me? Because sometimes we can get stuck in maybe business or in our personal life, and we can get stuck and it’s difficult then to move forward. But first of all we need to realise, is this very thing really important for me? Why is this important for me and as long as you can find the very solid justification that these things that you are banging your head against the wall, is really important for you. Then that’s fine, if we’re doing it. But sometimes while exploring the why, I can immediately see that the things that I’m getting annoyed and that gets me frustrated that it gets me annoyed. Is not the thing that I actually want, it’s not the thing that is important to me. And the maybe just for a moment I’ve been following someone else’s dream. I’ve been following someone else’s agenda, or I’ve been got sidetracked from what’s really important to me, because I was following a shiny object. And I was like oh my God, I really need to have this and now I’ve overcomplicated my life, now I’ve overcomplicated my business and so it becomes incredibly difficult to then manage that situation. That’s the first, the very first thing. Understand, why is this important for you? Why is this important for you?
So then the second thing, once you’ve identified that actually that very thing is important for you, is important for your growth, is important for your business, is important for who you are as a person. And the second thing is to see what is what is the thing that is missing for that particular thing that you want to work? So, for example… I give you this as a brilliant example. I’ve been stuck in, no not stuck but I have a personality tendency that I respond to things that are really urgent. And I respond to things, and everything, most of the time in my life is done last minute. It will be done, it will be done well but it will be done last minute. And so that doesn’t work really well if I have great plans or if there are other people involved in the plan. Now that we have a much larger team. That trait of my personality is not serving the people that I’m working with and definitely not serving myself, and it’s not serving the company. And so one of the goals that I had was to be able to work out regularly, consistently at least a minimum of four times a week. Now, very simple goal. I mean the obvious solution is just get your ass out of gym. It’s a very simple solution.
Now the reality is I tend to prioritise everything else and say yes to other commitments instead of taking my ass to the gym. So what can I do to create an environment around me that can support me in getting that extra accountability? So, what I realise when I answered myself the second question. Is this important for you? Yes absolutely. Why is this important for me? Because I want to be able to become a great basketball player.
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So, first of all it’s important for me because I want to become a great basketball player and I want to play in the main team and become a part of the main, the first starting five on my basketball team. And why is it important for me? Because I absolutely love basketball and it makes me feel alive, it makes me feel happy, it makes me forget about everything else when I play and then what is missing for me to keep to my commitment? I realise it’s missing external accountability. And the other things that we’re missing, was another indoor space where I could play when outside it’s raining. And another thing I realise was missing is the same ability to say yes to this particular thing and say no to others. So, to refuse another speaking engagement that could come up in the morning where I could do that extra work out. So, this one of the things that we’re missing.
Now then I asked myself and I want to identify the things that we’re missing. I asked also myself a third question, which is What resources do I have right now? To start bringing some of the things that are missing for that particular thing to work and what resources do I have right now? And this comes down to a personal belief that I have which is everything is around us at all time. Everything is already there. I don’t need to invent anything, I don’t need to find anything, I don’t need to create anything. Everything is already there. It just needs to be tapped into by me. It just needs to be discovered by me. And whether is on a consciousness level, whether its because I need more knowledge, that I can then tap into what’s already there. ‘Cause the moment I can see it, and I can get it, I can tap into it. And so then I asked myself, What do I have at my disposal?
Well, I know a great person which used to be, to play basketball with me. Who now is a personal trainer. So is a basketball coach and personal trainer that’s brilliant. And so that would solve the problem of accountability. I paid someone so I’m even more accountable, and I want to make my return so I pay that person in advance. So then they can help me out. And I can keep myself more accountable instead of postponing and getting other priorities in.
And so, by asking myself that third question. What do I already have around me? That gives me an idea of, first of all it reinforces the concept that everything that I want is just there. It’s just a hand reach. Just need to tap into it. And secondly it makes me use the resources that I already have, the connections that I have. What God, the universe, whatever you want to call it has already given to me, because the universe will never give me something that I can’t handle and it will always give me the resources I need to handle it and sometimes the resources are built up if you’re looking back and you’re connecting the dots, then you will see that the resources that you have right now, they were prepared before to help you overcome these challenges. It’s fascinating! But sometimes when we are in it, it’s very difficult to see what’s the obvious answer. So then, that’s why I ask myself those questions. That’s how I use this process.
Sometimes it can be done on paper, sometimes it’s done internally, my mind, actually most of the time, maybe I’m on the tube or I’m cycling and I ask myself those questions in my mind. And so, once I tend to find out the things I’m going to do, what do I have? I make one commitment, pick one choice and execute it immediately. I take action immediately, like straight away. As soon as I have the thought, now I’m engrossed in the thought process and the energy is building up, I am reaching out. Because I know that the moment I am putting something else, or I’m thinking about something else this very thing, which is still really important for me, maybe now is not urgent anymore and hasn’t become a priority for me anymore. And so, that’s why for example I hired a personal trainer and I had my first personal training session today. Now, could I use that money somewhere else?
Yes, absolutely but at the same time it’s something that is really important for me. It’s something that is gonna have long term health benefits because now I’m working out consistently, at least four times a week and sometimes I can even go up to five times when I have the game day. So, I can improve my game, I can improve my fitness, I can improve my health, is this worth 100 pounds or 40 pounds a week, 50 pounds a week, 60 pounds a week? Yes, it’s worth it! And so, think about that. What is one thing that you’re stuck right now? That’s what I want to finish this with because when you use this process, even we were stuck in our business because we weren’t, we changed a bit of our avatar, our products, our services, we did this process with our team and now we found a solution and boom!
We had one of the most successful seminars that we’d had in a while, we had one of the best months that we had in a while, just because when things unlock and when you find things that click, then now you are in full alignment and sometimes just finding and fine tuning what is the thing that will click and will unlock the next step?
So, think about what you are going through right now. Is it something personal or is it something business related? Ask yourself, why is this important to you? Once you’ve asked yourself why it’s important to you, then ask yourself what is missing for you to be successful or for that particular thing to happen? And third, ask yourself what do you have around you that can make up, that you can use and that you can leverage for, to make up for those things that are missing for you to be successful and make it happen? And then fourth, take action immediately. Once you’ve found the answer, boom!
Just go out there and take the first action because as I said, it might not be that the very first action you take is actually the one that it will be the thing that will make that very thing successful but is the one that will start the process so then the next thing will happen and the next thing will happen and the next thing will happen and the next thing will happen.
So guys, I hope this was useful for you. Thank you very much for joining me live for this video to live. Thank you very much for listening to the podcast, if you’re listening to the recording here on this show and let me know what are some of the things that you’re stuck on or applied this process and let me know your feedback. I want to know how you are using the material that I’m giving you because this process will absolutely change your life, it changed mine, it will change yours too.
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